And the idea of it makes me so nervous. I’ve been putting it off for too long now and just have to do it. I’m just afraid of saying the wrong thing or getting embarrassed and making her uncomfortable.
I have a couple of books. The Care and Keeping of You and Growing up, It’s a Girl Thing but there is a lot of stuff in those books that I’m not sure I’m ready to talk to my 10-year-old about. I want to have a nice, long talk with her about anything and everything she has questions about. I want her to come to me when she’s a teenager and dealing with all the crap that comes along with being a teenager. I want us to have a much better relationship than my mother and I had. But I’m afraid we are going down a bad road of constant arguing and yelling.
My mother had the talk with me by giving me a pamphlet called “Love Bugs.” Yeah, all about STDs. Needless to say, I never talked to my mother about any of those things I had questions about. I talked to my friends about it and got a lot of bad information.
It used to be easy. It was me and her and our little world worked great. But now I have to tell her 1o times to do anything and then she gets all mouthy when I end up yelling because she still hasn’t done what I told her to do. I think if we can connect over “The Talk” then maybe I can get her to trust me with any other issues she may come across.
Have you given the talk yet? If you have, how did you do it and how old was your kid? If you haven’t, why?