Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there is anything wrong with divorce. If you are unhappy and have tried everything but nothing worked and especially if there are kids involved, then divorce was the right decision. I’ve made plenty of mistakes in my life, marrying the wrong guy just happens to be one I haven’t made.
What I don’t get is why people are so shocked when you say you have never been married. It’s always the same thing. “I figured you were divorced. You’ve really never been married?” Our society is so used to divorce that it’s just like another thing that people do. I was talking to some friends about this, both divorced, and they said well at least we tried. Ok, but why is it so unacceptable to not have made the mistake in the first place? Why am I looked at like a leper for never being married (and as I recently found out, a red flag to men possibly). I refuse to settle and my daughter comes first. Yes, I’ve become very comfortable in my girls only world and it would probably be pretty hard for me to let someone else in at this point but that doesn’t mean that if the right guy came along I wouldn’t give it a shot (maybe). But it doesn’t mean that I wasn’t open to the possibility of it before I got so comfy and had a child who become my reason for living.
Why are we so adamant that we must pair off anyway? It’s very possible to have a fulfilling, happy life being single. And how can you really know if you actually love someone if you can’t be happy alone. I think that may be part of the huge divorce rate. People just can’t be alone so they jump into a marriage thinking they love someone but they actually just love not being alone. When I first heard Taylor Swift’s song Love Story and the line where Romeo pr0poses saying you’ll never have to be alone I couldn’t believe it. Be with me so you’ll never have to be alone…WTF? Is that the way we think now? She was 16 when she sang that. Is that what we are teaching our children?